How To Choose Who’s Going To Be In Your Wedding Party

Choosing who’s going to stand by your side on your special day is a daunting task. Remember that the people you choose to stand by your side have a major responsibility. They will need to sacrifice evenings, days, and even weekends to help you plan/celebrate your upcoming marriage. They will be the deciding factor on whether the wedding planning process will be a breeze or extremely frustrating. Be very selective with who you choose. If you’re having difficulty deciding who you choose to be in your wedding party, I developed a system that can help.

What is the system I made you ask? It’s a series of statements. But before you start answering the statements, I’ll need you to write down every single person you’re considering being part of your wedding party, this includes family members. Read each statement then put a check-mark next to the names to which that statement applies. Ready? Here we go!

  1. I can confide in this person.
  2. This person knows my taste.
  3. This person sticks up for me.
  4. This person has stuck with me through hard times in my life.
  5. This person always encourages me to be my best self.
  6. I feel positive around this person.
  7. This person’s presence makes me calm.
  8. This person can make me smile or giggle no matter what.
  9. I can call this person at any time if I needed help or advice.
  10. This person has always supported my relationship with my fiancé.
  11. This person will support my wedding planning decisions.
  12. I can rely on this person to show up to wedding-related appointments.
  13. I have complete faith that this person will plan the perfect wedding-related parties like bridals showers, bachelor/bachelorette parties, etc.


After the check-marks have been made, I think it’ll be obvious who you should ask to be in your party. Remember, it’s okay to invite friends and family as guests instead of having them in your wedding party. If they’re truly there for you and your fiancé, they should be honored to be part of your special day no matter what.

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  1. Braden Bills says:

    My son is going to be getting married, and he wants some help choosing who’s going to be at his wedding. It makes sense that choosing the right people would be important. I’ll make sure that he knows to work with his wife for that.